I talk to the guy every day.
I have for 15 years.
Perhaps you’d think I’d know him as well as I know the back of my hand.
I don’t.
Like me, he is growing, shifting, and changing every day.
I ‘interview’ people for a living as a counsellor. I have an approach and a host of questions that assist in setting the stage for curiosity, safety, and investigation.
Why don’t I interview my husband? I asked myself — I was curious what he would say if I asked him…
Sure, he said.
Immediately, a flood of questions came pouring out into my learning journal. I was surprised by what my mind came up with. Many were deep and vulnerable, some direct and dynamic.
Both of us were sick, so we had to postpone until our voices no longer sounded as if they were echoing down a cardboard tube full of mucous.
When the day finally rolled around, I was surprised at how simple it was to set things up. I went to my studio, he went to his basement office, and we Zoomed our way into the podcast sphere.
This interview would become the foundation and first of our podcast Thoughts on Humanity by Humanity Academy.
I’ve always been curious about what makes other people tick and I was blessed to be surrounded by storytellers growing up. To this day, it is still one of my favourite things to sit and listen to a good story.
When I first met my husband, we spent hours on the phone. Like HOURS. Our first phone conversation lasted 6 hours— He was full of stories (and still is).
So naturally, in our interview, a few of these stories came out.
What did I learn when I interviewed my husband?
That I can detach from being wife/lover/friend and be an interviewer
That I can abstain from being a counsellor in an interview
That there’s many things I don’t know about him and I’d like to know more— he’s not the dude I married, yet he’s still the dude I married
He really likes alone time and used to get as much (if not more) as I did pre-family
I learned how much his life has changed over the years, especially since being married and losing many loved ones
He LOVES to write — I mean I knew this, but this interview was like BAM! He really loves to learn and read and synthesize and write
He has so much respect for how his mother and step-father raised him and it was clear how much he gleaned from them growing up (apple didn’t fall too far from the tree)
For me, this process was a reminder I am married to a person, not just a partner.
It can be easy to lose sight of this when life takes over — driving kids around, running a business, coaching, making meals, grabbing groceries, working, paying bills, doing laundry, and all the things.
I will definitely be interviewing him again, on and off camera.
If you’d like to check out the interview, here’s the YouTube link.
And now I’m looking for more guests to interview on what it’s like being human 🌟.
Love, Lisa
Lisa is a Registered Clinical Counsellor currently developing a course on Identity- “Who Am I 101”, and one on relationship to self called “Go Friend Yourself”.
She is also a trained Equine Facilitated Wellness practitioner and is the co-founder of Humanity Academy as well as a content creator, educator, artist, poet, mother, and lover of horses. Sometimes she still gets on colts, just for the heck of it.
This piece of writing is intended for general knowledge and creative exploration. It should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, intervention or treatment. Please consult with your mental health professional or other qualified healthcare provider if you require care.
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